I Need Your Help
Blog May 4, 2016

I have a question for you but first, a confession. I’m not a career blogger! If I were a career blogger, you would have heard from me more often than is the case. But the truth is, I don’t like getting tons of emails, newsletters and posts from bloggers and sales people who all have the cure or the answer for whichever of life’s challenges I happen to be grappling or the latest and hottest “secret” or “You won’t believe what happened next”! I am so sick of the word SECRET! The “secret to…” Are you sick of it too?

I write when I feel inspired to write, to share my experiences and knowledge on dreams and life. So, just to refresh your memory, I decided to finally follow the information from a dream where I was told “Your job is death” and see where that takes me. I’ve been doing just that, studying grief and bereavement through the University of Toronto. Four courses down, two to go. I’m even running a bereavement group with a colleague of mine, but then I choked.

The Dilemma

And by “choked” I mean I had a case of writer’s block. Not that I didn’t have anything to say, but I thought maybe my readers want to stick to dreams and not hear about grief, let alone death. We do live in a death-phobic, youth obsessed culture after all. The more time passed, the more I was frozen in indecision.  Yet, everything I’ve learned about promoting one’s work tells me to see what your demographic wants and offer it! But my demographic is so large! Everyone dreams and everyone dies (eventually) so where to start?

My Question

That’s where you come in. Tell me your opinion.

  1. Would you like to see two separate sites? Dreams AND Grief & Bereavement should be separate, because you’re only interested in one or the other?
  2. Or should it all be under the one banner, one website with different pages? www.pattiallen.com since it’s all part of the Patti Allen offerings (www.pattiallen.com)? It’s up to you and I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts. You can post your responses or email me privately at Patti@pattiallen.com

Just so you know- not that I want to influence your vote- Dreams and Death (among others) were brothers in the Greek mythology. According to the poet Hesiod, Hypnos (Sleep), Oneiros (Dreams) and Thanatos (Death) were all sons of Nyx (Night). The Talmud says that “…sleep is 1/60 of death, and dreams are 1/60 of prophecy. Dreams are the buds of prophecy.” so this isn’t a far out combo. Dreams, death and sleep have been linked in the collective psyche for ages! (FYI, I’m partial to the combo plan.)

Ok, so go ahead and vote…. I REALLY appreciate your opinion and your help! What do you think?


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  • Reply JUDY CHANG May 4, 2016 at 12:07 pm

    I vote 2. all be under the one banner, one website with different pages

  • Reply Patti Allen May 4, 2016 at 12:12 pm

    Thanks for voting Judy!

  • Reply Victoria Reeve May 4, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    I’m with Judy…it’s connected, it’s all you, and should be on one site unless (or until) it becomes too unwieldy.

  • Reply Jes May 4, 2016 at 1:18 pm

    I vote 2!

  • Reply Vanessa May 4, 2016 at 1:33 pm

    Hi Patti! I hear you about writer’s block + ‘choking’, it happens to the best of us. It’s part of the creative path. On to my vote, I say #2 – all on one site, with different pages. Personally, I don’t think dreams + death are too far apart topics. For example, I often dream of those who’ve passed, or dream of those who will be crossing over soon. There definitely connected in my book. Hope that helps Soul SiStar! xoxo

  • Reply Karen May 4, 2016 at 2:37 pm

    Hi Patti
    I believe both are connected, in my opinion, they need to be together. Guides and loved ones visit us in dreams and we travel the different planes and universe when we dream… Dreams can also prepare us for death as we get to experience what its like to be truly us, without this casing of a body… For me they would be good together.. Immense love

  • Reply julie May 4, 2016 at 2:54 pm

    I vote #2 – all on one site with different tabs.

  • Reply Gita Masiques May 4, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    Patti dearest, my vote is for letting your site reflect the intrinsic Oneness of the Universe, and the beauty of diversity in Unity. You 2, keep enjoying the journey of dreaming, weaving and rejoicing! AUM ~*~

  • Reply Stephanie Swafford May 4, 2016 at 5:37 pm

    I’m with you — the “combo platter” — especially considering the mythological intertwinings.

  • Reply Karen May 5, 2016 at 5:31 am

    I vote 2. As you said, they are connected. And it will save you time and energy. Leaving more time for you to be ok your creative mode rather than admin mode.

    • Reply Karen May 5, 2016 at 5:33 am

      That should read in your creative mode. !

      • Reply Patti Allen May 5, 2016 at 6:25 am

        Thank you for your vote and wisdom!

  • Reply Martie May 5, 2016 at 3:25 pm

    I vote for 1 website with two different pages.

  • Reply Donna King May 9, 2016 at 9:26 am

    I vote for # 2. One website different pages
    Thank you for letting us vote as it shows that you are thinking of us.

  • Reply Nancy English May 15, 2016 at 10:24 am

    Patti, I have long been a fan of the Abaton Keys. They speak to me and my dreams. I have only recently discovered your web site. I vote for #2. ( Blair Dunn carried your cards at Mentor Books and we have given and sold them all… they are amazing.)
    I have no web site … I am a nursing professor at our university who teaches all things about Death Dying – ( my souls calling too)
    Nancy English, Denver Colorado

  • Reply Jackie May 24, 2016 at 12:07 pm

    I vote a definite 2 separate. Not everyone who is dreaming is grieving and not everyone grieving wants to read through a bunch of stuff that is irrelevant to what they are going through to get to the help they need.

    Thank you for letting us vote.


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