Inspirational Dreamers
Inspirational Dreamers October 2, 2015

Gayle Delaney

Do you remember any childhood dreams? If so, what’s the earliest?

I know I had some, but I thought nothing of them. I thought dreams were nothing particularly of interest. I didn’t think evil of them, I just didn’t hear about dreams from anyone.

When did you first get interested in understanding your dreams? How did that unfold for you?

I was living in France and when visiting home, my boyfriend gave me Edgar Cayce’s book, The Sleeping Prophet. It wasn’t something I wanted to read but if you ask for a recommendation, you owe it to that person to read it. I read it and had a knockout dream that ended all my existential angst. I woke up from that and was no longer anxious about the meaning of life, social or spiritual enlightenment. I got enough to know that life is just fine and my job is to bring cheer in life. And that underlying the real pain and disgusting wretchedness of life is joy and beauty and it’s my job to work at that….I was convinced and liberated from worrying about the meaning of life. That was 1970. It was a very liberating dream! That dream was extraordinary. I had rosy cheeks for 3 weeks and that wasn’t typical for me! That’s what turned me on to dreams. After that dream, which needed no interpretation, I wondered how come our educational system doesn’t teach this? I knew nothing about it [dreams] and only read silly things about dreams.

How did dreams play a role in your life, whether in decision-making or in healing?

Yes, in every aspect of life! Career choice for one. I was going to go back to Princeton in fund-raising (I thought I should make a living). I had dream after dream telling me, “No, don’t do it!” When I said yes to the radio job (the first satellite radio show in Seattle) I had a dream that basically congratulated me for my decision.

In my relationships… Dreams helped me divorce. Dreams helped me get over my guilt at leaving a good man.

Dreams to help me [ice] skate better. On buying houses….not psychic dreams, but dreams that help me think better. My dreams have never given me a bum steer and I’ve used them tons in my life. But I only use them when it makes sense to me in waking. I have ignored dreams that said, “Absolutely don’t be in a relationship with this guy.” A wonderful man….But I decided on my own, in my own time…but the dream was right! And eventually they helped me through it.

They have helped me with diet, health, exercise…. My dreams have given me “B12 shots” Metaphorical energy –accelerating my perception of beauty and love.

If you could give one piece of advice to those who are just starting to listen to their dreams, what would it be?

Don’t let anyone tell you what your dream means. Don’t become a follower. Figure it out for yourself. (There are ways to do that.) Don’t follow other people’s (or other systems’ and theories’) interpretations. Find a way to know what it means that holds true in all your dreams and your waking consciousness. Learn to understand metaphor.

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dream job
Blog Dreamsharing September 20, 2015

Would you change your life because of a dream? I always encourage dreamers to get the dream’s message and do something in waking life to honour the dream; to bring its message to conscious light for growth and for change. But would you do it? Do you really want to shift your life based on a dream? Most people love to get clarity about their dream and their life but don’t actually want anything to change, which can be very uncomfortable. People fear change, I’m told, more than they fear death! I am no different but I decided that I need to practice what I preach. Of course this puts me in a tight spot vis à vis the change or death choice!


The Dream

I was walking with a rather tall man in robes- maybe 7′ tall- in a quadrangle, a large courtyard in what felt like a campus setting. He says, “Your job is death.” I ask, “Well how do you mean it? Symbolically or literally? As a psychotherapist my clients have mini-deaths, (symbolic endings and releases) all the time.” But before he can answer, I am awakened. End of dream. 

Since that dream, nine years ago, I have looked at it every which way possible and it never produced an “aha” of new insight. Maybe it was simply a confirmation that I’m on the right track but I follow the wisdom of Jeremy Taylor who says that dreams don’t come to tell us what we already know. I know all about the symbolic ways of death; the endings, letting go, new beginnings and the symbolic fires that scorch our souls so that something new can grow from the charred but enriched inner destruction. Nine years of working on that dream off and on simply produced “Ya, I know that” kind of reactions. So I decided to take the dream literally. The man in robes had the feel of a teacher or guide (perhaps from other realms) and since all the symbolic approaches got me no where, I thought I had nothing to lose by going literal.

The Action


So I signed up for a series of courses at the University of Toronto on grief and bereavement. There’s another course I’m eyeing too. Will it change my life or the direction of my work? It’s too soon to say. However, I know I’ve run from this interpretation for a reason. Years ago, I helped start a charity whose goal was to create a hospice and when I left, I couldn’t get far enough away from the topic, though that wasn’t the reason I left. I just felt gun-shy and started avoiding the field, even though I passionately agree with everything about the hospice movement. Of course my “job is death” could be about the dying process or the grieving process. [On an interesting side note, a psychic once told me that I was a “rescuer”! Not an emotional rescuer but one who apparently helps people who don’t know they are dead, get to the other side. Supposedly I do this in my sleep and that’s why I wake up so tired! And I do wake up tired!] But again, why would the dream tell me what I already know? Dreams bring forth material from our subconscious that we are ready to look at. They may also carry precognitive and other psychic information. In either case, it won’t be old material.

A Dream Uninterpreted is Like a Letter Unopened~ The Talmud

death at psychiatrist

This quote from the Talmud is right! We are getting nightly letters from our unconscious mind, our higher mind and sources beyond that, so how long will we let the mail pile up? It’s time to open our letters. Spend some time with a dream and get someone to help you if you are stuck. Once you feel you know what it means, here are seven ideas to move the dream and its messages into your waking life.

  1. Post it! Write the message on a Post It note and stick it on your bathroom mirror, the dashboard of your car or on your computer monitor. You can even put it on your phone and see it every time you power on. It will help keep the dream’s message in your conscious awareness.
  2. Stick it! When was the last time you added a bumper sticker to your car? You can imagine (or even create an actual bumper sticker) that the message of your dream was put into a clever phrase and made into a bumper sticker. Every time you walk up to your car, you will be reminded of your message.
  3. Draw it! You don’t have to be an artist to draw your dream. Stick figures can show the dream action just as a crayon scribble can show emotion. Doodle your dream message and stick it on your fridge or draw your dream, photograph it and put it on your computer as a screen saver.
  4. Move it! Just as you don’t have to be an artist to draw a dream, you don’t have to be a dancer to move it! Put on some music and move the feeling of the dream through your body and out, or beat a drum and move your message using rhythm and movement.
  5. Create it! Creating the message of your dream isn’t just for drawing. You can make a Dream Stick by taking a walk and as you think about your dream, glance around for a stick and see what appears. Decorate it with string, yarn, beads, feather and whatever you have on hand, in a way that expresses the feel of your dream. If you like to write, create a poem, short story or blog about your dream.
  6. Learn it! As in my “your job is death” dream, see if there is a course you can take, or a new skill that the dream is encouraging your to learn. One of my daughters dreamt about riding a bike, then went out and taught herself to do it!
  7. Do it! Speaking of “do it”… Don’t wait nine years like I did. Experiment. Take action. Explore something new. In a quickly changing world, change is the only constant. We might as well embrace it…and do it!

So, at the end of the day, would you change your life because of a dream? I’m going to try and before I know it, I may be adding coaching for loss and bereavement. Who knows? But to leave my dream, to abandon it,  without taking action in the waking world would just be too sad. What a waste. Will you join me? Will you change your life because of a dream?  Let me know. I’d love to hear from you!

dreamwork with heart
Blog Heart-Centered Dreamwork September 10, 2015

How to do dreamwork with heart? I call the work I do “Heart-Centered Dreamwork” with good reason and I can teach you to do it too!

But first, the back-story! My training was in body-centered psychotherapy (though it is no longer referred to as such) called the Rubenfeld Synergy Method® back in the 90’s. (Yes I’ve been doing the work for a long time!)  The work is powerfully amazing as it combines talk and touch. The “talk” grew out of Gestalt therapy and focuses on the present; the “I am” rather than “I was” statements. After all, whatever happened to us in the past, we can still only process it in the present moment. And the “touch”, a light Reiki-like touch rather than the deeper touch of massage, grew out of the founder’s experience with Feldenkrais work and the Alexander Technique. But what happened when Ilana Rubenfeld combined the three methods, with a dash of Eriksonian trance work, was true “synergy” as it became more than either of the individual methods were on their own. I learned so much from doing this work for myself and, as a “Synergist”, I learned how to open up a dialogue between my client’s emotions, their physical stuck places and chronic pain or illnesses and eventually, even their soul. That lead me to Soul Coaching® because whatever door we enter through- body, mind or emotions-they all lead to our heart and soul.

Fast forward to now. Along the path, I discovered that my passion is dreams and I followed my passion and continue to use the tools I gathered along the way. I studied with Denise Linn and added Soul Coaching® to my tool kit and became one of her Mentors for her online courses for Hay House (I highly recommend them!), but I had also been trained by Robert Moss and became a dream teacher, I satisfied my intellect and got a Master’s degree studying dreams and their role in healing in ancient Greece and I studied with Caroline Myss for the pure pleasure of delving into the Mysteries… And my tool kit continued to grow as I studied energy healing, became a Reiki Master, and learned to do Past Life Regressions! When I paused to look back over the road I had travelled, I saw that the common thread wasn’t dreams or the body, psychotherapy or one particular technique, it was the heart and soul!  The path I took was a path following my curiosity but mainly, it was the path to heal my heart. I discovered that dreams were the technology of Soul- perhaps it’s the “hardware” giving us the structure or a framework for exploration-  but without the heart there was no “software” to operate the system!

As a Rubenfeld Synergist I learned to listen. I learned to hold my clients in a state of active listening, without judgement and with respect, while holding the space for them to “become” themselves. I learned to meet them where they are and not where I think they should be. Years later, Denise Linn said “The instant you judge someone, you lose the ability to influence them” and I understood the “why” of no judgement. How can I model self-respect, healing and growth if I don’t give my heart to my clients show them how I practice what I teach? Can you do dreamwork without the heart? Certainly, however it is a intellectual pursuit when the heart isn’t part of the process. You might think I learned this for myself then shared it with my clients, but it was the opposite! I learned to treat my clients from a heart-centered space of love and respect, then I started to treat myself like I treat my clients. Some of us learn arse-backwards but hey, at least we learn! At the end of the day, the Golden Rule rocks! Treat others in the same way you wish to be treated…Or my version, treat yourself with the same love and respect that you freely give to everyone else!

How To Do Dreamwork With Heart

  • Read through your dream and ask, “Where do I feel this in my body?” Don’t forget that we are spirit having an experience in the physical. Ignoring the vessel through which we experience our emotions and our life, is not the path of heart. Put one hand on the spot where you feel the dream’s emotions and your other hand on your heart.
  • Ask the body part to speak to you. What does it want you to know? Your knee might simply say, “I hurt”.
  • Now ask your heart to respond to that body part. What is the most loving response your heart can give? It might say, “I’m so very sorry! I’ve been putting so much weight (responsibility) on you without thinking how painful this is. I promise to treat you with more TLC!”
  • Next, imagine your closest friend was sharing this dream and conversation with you. By the way, you ARE your closest friend! With your hand still on the place where you felt the dream and the other hand over your heart, imagine it opening wide, encircling you with love. Do you notice a colour or any other sensations? The physical and energetic experience of your visualization may help you really feel it.
  • Now from that place of total self-acceptance, ask “If I knew what this dream’s message is, what would it be? You’ll be surprised how you really do know what your dream asks of you. If not, give some more love to yourself and practice patience.
  • Use oracle cards to help you find the dream’s meaning. (My own deck of The Abaton Keys® or any deck you love will be perfect. Denise Linn’s Gateway Oracle Cards are my second fav!)  When you feel stuck, picking a card can help you by-pass the rational mind to get to your intuitive answers.

Really, dreamwork and personal growth are an inside job. It is the job of the heart.


the abaton keys
Blog Dreamwork Hacks Heart-Centered Dreamwork Soul Coaching® August 30, 2015

I love The Abaton Keys®, my dream healing oracle deck! Hey wait just a minute. Didn’t you create them, you ask? Well yes, but that’s not why I love them! Give me a moment of your time and I promise to explain. And for your patience, I will end with a special offer!

Back in the day, around 800 years before the Common Era, stories were circulating about a Hero- the offspring of a mortal and a god. His name was Asklepios. His father, Apollo, killed his mother in a jealous rage, and in a moment of either compassion (or Narcissism), he plucked the unborn infant from his mother’s funeral pire, and gave him to Chiron the Centaur to raise. Chiron was the archetypal Wounded Healer and raised Asklepios with the knowledge of herbs and the healing ways. Soon Asklepios was elevated to “god” status and came to be known as the god of healing.

Here’s the part that’s really cool… Pilgrims in search of healing would travel long distances and wait to be called into the Abaton- the sleeping chamber. There they would prepare to meet the god in their dreams and awaken healed or with instructions for healing. Let me repeat, all this happen in their dreams! This practice lasted for one thousand years, from 500 BCE (before the Common Era) to 500 CE so I like to think that people were finding value in it!

Fast forward amost 2,000 years and my interest in this practice was piqued in a way that could not be explained in logical ways. I had read Edward Tick’s book The Practice of Dream Healing and I was smitten with the Greek healing bug! I even found a way to write about the topic for my Masters. But there was a creative project about to emerge- The Abaton Keys®- and with the help of artist Julia Still, I gave birth to my dream healing oracle deck. I named them after the sleeping chamber where healing dreams took place and called them “keys” because I believe that we each hold the key to our own healing.

turning point

Believe it or not, I created these cards for people like me who think too much. Through my work with Denise Linn (see the link on the right), I discovered that the simple act of clearing my mind to focus on a question, then picking a card, enabled me to bypass my logical brain so that intuitive information could come through. Are you anything like me? Having a meditative ritual like picking an oracle card (see below), is all you need to do begin to harvest the wisdom and intuitive “hits” that dwell within. The feedback has been great and most people are getting insightful help in just the way they need it. Here’s but a small sample….

…The Abaton Keys are a very unique deck; using the wisdom of the ancients of old, the Abaton Keys give you a very deep, insightful and most importantly of all truthful perspective of any situation. I have not unfortunately as yet had the pleasure of using the deck with clients, but in my own personal use i have found the cards to be invaluable. Part of what makes these cards so special is the way they are cleverly divided into four suits, (the drama suit, medicine suit, wisdom suit and ritual suit); through making the deck this way, I find that the cards connect you deeply to not only your souls wisdom, but also allow you to experience the spiritual in a meaningful way. Another aspect of why I find these cards so special is the wonderful card spreads that are suggested at the beginning of the book. I have used the spreads several times now for myself and have found the messages brought forth to be deeply healing. Overall I would not hesitate to recommend the Abaton Keys to anyone who is truly interested in experiencing a deeply healing, spiritual and soulful experience, either for themselves or in use for others. Z.T. Uk.


The Abaton Keys is a beautiful deck that allows for clarity of dreams and messages of the soul. I have used this deck with clients for daily insights and for a 4 element reading. Clients have been astounded as to the accuracy of the cards. I highly recommend The Abaton Keys. The illustrations are so beautiful!  C.Lake, Texas

Which brings me to my list of reasons why you’ll love them too!

7 Reasons Why You’ll Love The Abaton Keys®

  1. They will help you bypass your rational mind: I don’t know about you but I think too much! These intuitive tools never fail to help me get out of my head and into my heart. They are truly heart opening.
  2. Through the Keys, you will tap into your intuition: So often we hear a little voice saying something of an intuitive nature and we rationalize the reasons to do the opposite! Or, for some, it’s drowned out in the noise or confusion of our many other thoughts. The Abaton Keys, will help you find your intuition in all that noise.
  3. The Keys enable you to align with ancient wisdom from Greece and other past lives: These cards were inspired by the wisdom I studied for my masters’ degree but I suspect I was drawing on a past life in ancient Greece as well. The four suits reflect different aspects of life in Greece 2000 years ago, including Philosophy and philosophers, Greek tragedies and comedies, ancient healing practices and the mysterious world of intuition and divination.
  4. The Abaton Keys connect you with your own Higher Self: By-passing the rational mind is the first step but coming into silence and connecting with the guardian of your deck will allow you access to your Higher Self and information that you never imagined you could know!
  5. They are a simple and elegant tool for centering and meditation: Not all uses for this deck need to be complex spreads! One of the most popular uses is for centering oneself, grounding and in meditation. Pick one key and breathe deeply and the benefits of this deck will be put to immediate use!
  6. They give you the “Hawk’s view” of your problems, your questions or your life: We are often too close to our problems to get a clear picture on what choices to make or direction to go in. When you use The Abaton Keys, they enable you to fly over your situation and find the answers that you need, when you need them.
  7. They will give you answers! Yes, don’t we all want answers? That’s why people go to psychics and other card readers! But I am a coach and I believe that all answers are within you already…we just don’t always know it and we need a little help to access the answers. The Abaton Keys® give you easy access to all the answers you seek.

Your Special Offer

This is only for YOU, because you have been reading my blog and I am SO grateful for your presence in my life! For the month of September (from September 1st-30th, 2015 only) Buy one deck of The Abaton Keys® and get a second deck for 1/2 price! But wait, there’s more! (Sorry I couldn’t resist using that cliche!)….

In addition to this great discount, get a free 15 minute coaching session with me, using the Abaton Keys! It would give me great joy to coach you through whatever questions or challenges you are facing!

To take me up on this great offer simply go to and write “SEPT15″ in the additional comments space.

Abaton Keys® spread

Inspirational Dreamers
Blog Inspirational Dreamers August 18, 2015

Inspirational Dreamers aren’t only famous dreamers or authors, but they are you and me! Even so, I find it fascinating to talk to authors who are passionate about dreaming, to hear their stories and trace the roots of their passion back to a key moment or dream. So in this way, we are ALL “Inspirational Dreamers” who can share our dream stories! When I launched my blog on Facebook, I asked prominent dreamers and authors to share the story of their journey with dreams with my followers. It was so well received that I wanted to expand it into a regular series for my blog so more people would see it. The truth is, when we share our dreams and our experiences with dreaming, we inspire others. I shared how you can become an inspirational dreamer in the original post on June 17, 2015.

Today’s Inspirational Dreamer is…Teresa DeCicco!

Teresa DeCicco

Dr. Teresa DeCicco is a Professor of Psychology at Trent University in Canada as well as an Adjunct Professor at Queen’s University and a Research Associate at  both Guelph University and the Centre for National Research in Italy.  She has published numerous scientific papers on dreams, dreaming and spiritual psychology. We first met, though not in person, when we were the featured dream experts (along with Dave King) on the same television show, In Dreams. We finally met at one of the conferences for the International Association for the Study of Dreams and once we withdrew our projections on each other, lol, we clicked over the topic of spirit and dreams! Her latest book is Living Beyond the Five Senses.

Do you remember any of your childhood dreams? What’s the earliest?

I remember many dreams from childhood because my mother asked us over breakfast if we had had any dreams during the night. In essence, we were doing breakfast dreamwork but I did not realize this for many, many years. My mother paid attention to dreams, her own and ours, so this gave me the impression very early in life that they were important.

When did you first become interested in understanding your dreams?

I became interested in understanding dream meaning when I was a graduate student doing an internship at a cancer hospital in Canada. I was part of a program to help cancer patients cope with their illness but they kept wanting to share their dreams. I quickly came to realize that their dreams had important themes such as making meaning in their illness, progression of the illness, factors for recovery, and for some, imagery of transition to death. This became very profound and important for me to understand so that was the starting point for delving into the science of the dreaming mind.

You have just written a book “Living Beyond The Five Senses”. Did dreams play a role in your healing?

Dreaming is certainly a “Beyond the Five Senses Experience”. The dreaming mind has an incredible capacity to obtain information beyond the 5 senses and we certainly do not yet understand this great mystery. Dreams will provide information for problem-solving that cannot be had during waking day. Dreams will answer questions with incubation if a dreamer really wants to know the answer. Future events are foretold in dreams before they will occur in waking day, if a dreamer is willing to pay attention. The phenomena of dreaming is a rich and complex process that provides incredible information about waking life when we pay attention to our own dreams.

If you could give one piece of advice to those who are just starting to listen to their dreams, what would it be?

One piece of advice I would suggest is to begin keeping a dream journal and begin dream interpretation with any method of interest. Once we befriend our own dreaming mind it will begin to reveal its secrets and we will be given much information for waking life. In terms of understanding our dreams we can begin with any method that works for us. Over time we can add more methods and we can delve deeper into the process. Understanding our own dreaming mind is one of the greatest adventures available to us. This is one we just don’t want to miss!!

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Are you ready to be an Inspirational Dreamer?

Soul Coaching® & Dream Group Season
Blog Dream Courses Soul Coaching® August 12, 2015

Soon the seasons will turn and it will be Soul Coaching® and Dream Group Season!  Ah Summer, how fast you are slipping through my fingers! I’m long past the stage where August meant chasing the last bit of sun and shopping for school supplies. (Remember the commercial, “It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year”? That was how September felt to me.) But even so, August is a little slower, I book less clients and I get a little lazy. I had planned to redo the 28 days of the Soul Coaching program, just as a personal tune up, but I didn’t do it. (Hey, I’m human too!) I don’t know if it’s in the stars or just habit, but all of a sudden, I’ve gone from sloth to demon and I find myself shifting gears and looking to the future and planning ahead! In any case, like the bears who get ready to hibernate, in the fall we turn our attention within, inside activities in our home and inner activities for our soul. (If you live down under, this metaphor may not be working for you. Write and let me know and I’ll create a spring metaphor for you! Promise!)

Here’s What I’m Dreaming About

  • I’m dreaming about my dream groups: So far I’ve got three groups and I’m thrilled about that (2 in Toronto; 1 via conference call and private Facebook group). But I’m not done dreaming! I would love to have a dream group for parents, where they will work on their own dreams while learning how to handle their kids’ dreams. To make it easier for the parents, it should be during school hours. I’d also like to have a morning dream group. Maybe I’ll call it “Dream Clouds in My Coffee.” Too corny? That can be in person but it can easily be via Google Hangout or Skype or a conference call. The only requirement is dreamers will meet in the morning while drinking a hot cuppa something. Just putting it out there so you can help me manifest my dreams!


  • Now, for Soul Coaching® Season: New to Soul Coaching? Here’s a bit from my website…”Soul Coaching® is a 28-day process of discovery that helps you listen to the voice of your soul to gain self-understanding and align yourself with your soul’s plan for you. You will learn who you are and why you are here….Soul Coaching is a spiritual experience that offers guidance and support to help you clear out the inner debris of your life and connect with the wisdom of your soul.” I am looking to start two more Soul Coaching groups-one online; one in Toronto. Like my online dream groups, you can attend in your jammies. They will start this fall and they are wonderful ways to connect with others who will support and share your journey. They include making spirit sticks and other soul-centred projects, past life regressions and Soul Journeys, and more including one-on-one time with me for in-depth coaching.

Here’s Why You Should Join Me

Join me because you know me well enough to know that I will guide you with wisdom, kindness, insight and laughter, along with twenty one years of experience to support you.  Join me because of that small, niggling little voice within that tells you there is something to discover within yourself, something inside you that wants to be discovered and heard. Join me because for all the time you spend giving to others, you are finally ready for some “me-time”.  Join me because that dream is really not going away and you are still wondering what it meant. Join me because you are the parent of active dreamers and you want to know how to guide the little dreamers in your life. Curious? Write to me at or visit my website and sign up for my newsletter (there’s a free ebook too!) and I’ll keep you posted.

For You

Here’s something to think about as you move into the next season: Ask yourself “If I could do anything for myself this fall, what would it be?” Don’t argue with yourself over realities like time and money. What would you do if time and money weren’t an issue? Start focusing on the “what’s” and let the universe (which is actually a multiverse) figure out the “how’s”. You may want to make a “Miracle Box”- something we often make in our Soul Coaching groups- and put your dreams into it. Where attention goes, energy flows. Together, let’s help each other manifest our miracles!

And finally, I Picked a Card For You


This is from my dream healing oracle deck, The Abaton Keys® (Artist, Julia Still) and the Dreaming card invites you to use the creative powers of your dreams to create the life you want. Let’s dream together.

body-mind-spirit notes
Blog Dreamwork Hacks August 3, 2015

Don’t over think dream interpretation. Instead use your body! In our desire to get to the meaning of a dream we often turn dream interpretation into an intellectual exercise. We think and we over think. Then we google it, check with our friends, buy a 99¢ dream dictionary from the “Sale Table” at our local bookstore (that is actually disguised as a bookstore but is really a gift shop) or order ten books on the topic-not that there’s anything wrong with buying books, says the Bibliophile! While understandable, it often comes from the mistaken belief that we need an expert to tell us what your dream means. We don’t believe in our ability to solve our inner mysteries and we leave out our body which is our greatest instrument and ally in dream understanding!

Our body is an under-utilized and under-valued asset in our tool kit of self-knowledge. But how can we ignore the very filter through which all our experiences come? To my way of thinking and teaching, dreamwork without the body, is incomplete and is an intellectual exercise at best. We may get our insights and our “aha” moments, but they will be fleeting without the anchor of the body to facilitate change. Yup, it’s true…I’ve thought about this before. Ever since my training and post-graduate teaching of the Rubenfeld Synergy Method 24 years ago, I’ve had a lot of time to think about this! Here are some simple ways to include your body in your dreamwork.



         Listen to your body as you read, share or tell your dream

  • What sensations do you notice in your body as you tell your dream?
  • Do you notice tension in certain areas? Where do you feel it? Does it shift or change?
  • Do you feel different in your body or is energy released as you tell your dream?
  • Do feelings or emotions come up and if so, where do you feel that in your body do you feel them?

    Listen to your body as you hear someone else’s dream

  • Do you notice anything about the dreamer’s body as they tell their dream?
  • Does your body react in similar or different ways? What changes?
  • Is your body responding to their emotions or your own?

        Go to the body area or part where you feel “something”.

  • If that part of you had a voice what would it say?
  • We often ignore our body’s wisdom and emotion gets trapped within which, in time, can develop into chronic pain or dis-ease. Take some time to write down what your body’s voice tells you.
  • Is your head saying one thing but your heart- or any other body part- is saying another? Notice the different directions between your mind and your body. Start a dialogue and let each part express how they fell. Then see where you can find common ground or a place of compromise. Let the “either/or” within become a “both/and”!

       Play with the dream

  • Dream re-enactment can lead to amazing insights. Become each character or object in the dream and speak from that point-of-view. For instance, you dream that it is dark and you take a walk on a lonely country road with only the full moon to light your way. You can speak as the “walker” or as the “road” which might say, “ I wander past trees and rolling hills. I’m worn down over time and many travellers and people walk all over me!” You can become the dark and you can become the full moon. What does each perspective have to say?
  • See where you feel that in your body and then see if you can connect the wisdom of that point of view with anywhere in your life.

My Body….My Dream Interpretation!

If we think of our body as an ally and a friend (I know! Radical, right?) then we become our own best expert and our dream interpretations becomes fully embodied. By including the body in the discussion, we can find an interpretation makes sense for our lives, not some theoretical dreamer, and is grounded, multidimensional and whole. Here’s my advise: Don’t over-think dream interpretation: Use your body! And in so doing, you will find the meaning of your dream in a holistic way. And that’s not too shabby! You might even say, “It’s a dream come true”!

How To Succeed At Life-3 Tips!

Blog Soul Coaching® July 24, 2015

How to succeed at life

I wonder if we know how to succeed at life when everyone is busy using their smartphones and other electronic devices? I am usually an early adopter when it comes to technology. After all, I’ve already got Periscope on my iphone. But I saw a video on Facebook the other day of a woman giving birth in her car and it raised several questions for me about how we are living our lives. The young couple were apparently on their way to a birthing center and the husband certainly sounded supportive and was no doubt thinking he should just get his wife to the center fast, but I couldn’t get over the fact that the phone (or his camera) was set up and pointed at the passenger seat and at this young wife in labour. The video was very stable so it was clearly set up beforehand. I was also struck by the fact that as his pregnant wife was screaming that the baby was coming, he kept driving, rather than pull over to help her. To be fair, he eventually did ask her if he should stop or keep going and she told him to keep going but here’s where my head went with this: we are so focused on recording the events of our lives that we are not present in the moments of our lives! Here are some examples from cartoonists who have already started commenting on this phenomenon. Cartoonists have their fingers on the pulse of society, and their comics are often our early warning systems for our lives.














smartphone addiction


Granted, all of this is a somewhat tricky topic as most of my clients find me via my website and social media so I’m not saying we need to all become Luddites. But I am so disheartened of late, that we are missing what really matters in life, while we are busy recording life and taking selfies. I wonder if you are willing to do an experiment? What if you allowed yourself to be in the moment of your life’s moments? What if you checked your email just twice a day? (Hey I’m realistic, if nothing else. We do need to stay in touch and get some work done!) What if you just roll on the floor with your joyous toddler, rather than recording a video of you rolling on the floor with your toddler? How would your life be different if you let go of your smartphones? Would it be more “real”? Would you be more present to emotions, both positive and negative? Would you have more time for living? I suspect we would be more present, grounded and connected with each other, not just the “friends” we have online, many of whom we don’t actually know. Our smartphone “blindness” would turn to clear vision and seeing what is real and what is important.


smartphone blindness


Not convinced? Check out this brilliant little You Tube from China: smartphone addiction

And finally, sadly, this cartoon sums it all up:


life is what happens

3 Tips on How To Succeed At Life

  1. Limit your time on your smartphone. Plain and simple, I call it a “Phone Fast”. Find one time in your day when you would typically use your phone and shut it off for at least one hour. If you have children and teens at home, start some conversations about the addiction to technology.
  2. Be present. At least once a day, have a conversation or participate in an activity with someone without using your phone, whether googling a topic that comes up, checking your email, your texts or using any apps. Over time, see if you can increase this practice of being present and unplugged.
  3. Spend more time in nature. Stop and smell the flowers, breathe deeply and just BE. Now this is what I call a great and successful life!

Inspirational Dreamers

Inspirational Dreamers July 16, 2015

Inspirational Dreamers


We are ALL “Inspirational Dreamers” who can share our dream stories! When I launched my blog on Facebook, I asked prominent dreamers and authors to share the story of their journey with dreams with my followers. It was so well received that I wanted to expand it into a regular series for my blog so more people would see it. The truth is, when we share our dreams and our experiences with dreaming, we inspire others. I’ll share how you can become an inspirational dreamer too from the original post on June 17, 2015. In the meantime, meet Robert …..

Robert Moss

Robert Moss describes himself as a dream teacher, on a path for which there has been no career track in our culture. He is the creator of Active Dreaming, an original synthesis of dreamwork and shamanism. Born in Australia, he survived three near-death experiences in childhood. He leads popular seminars all over the world, including a three-year training for teachers of Active Dreaming. A former lecturer in ancient history at the Australian National University, he is a best-selling novelist, journalist and independent scholar. His nine books on dreaming, shamanism and imagination include Conscious Dreaming, Dreamways of the Iroquois, The Dreamer’s Book of the Dead, The Three “”Only”” Things,The Secret History of Dreaming, Dreamgates, Active Dreaming and Dreaming the Soul Back Home: Shamanic Dreaming for Healing and Becoming Whole and his latest, Sidewalk Oracles: Playing with Signs, Symbols and Synchronicity in Everyday Life, to be released October 2015. I studied with Robert in his Dream Teacher Trainings and credit much of my shamanic experience to his training classes.

You created Active Dreaming, an original synthesis of dreamwork and shamanism that is now being taught and practiced in more than 20 countries. What is Active Dreaming? What is the life of a dream teacher like?

 Active Dreaming is my original synthesis of shamanism and contemporary dreamwork. It offers three core areas of practice.
First, Active Dreaming is a way of talking and walking our dreams, of bringing energy and guidance from the dreamworld into everyday life. We learn how to create a safe space where we can share dreams of the night and dreams of life with others, receive helpful feedback, and encourage each other to move towards creative and healing action. We discover that each of us can play guide for others. Above all, we learn to take action to embody the energy and guidance of our dreams in everyday life.
Second, Active Dreaming is a method of shamanic lucid dreaming.  It starts with simple everyday practice and extends to profound group experiences of time travel, soul recovery and the exploration of multidimensional reality. It is founded on the understanding that we don’t need to go to sleep in order to dream. The easiest way to become a conscious or lucid dreamer is to start out lucid and stay that way.
Third, Active Dreaming is a way of conscious living. It calls us to remember and tell and live our bigger story in such a way that it can be heard and received by others. It is about navigating by synchronicity and grasping that the energy we carry and the attitudes we choose have magnetic effect on the world around us, drawing or repelling encounters and circumstances.

What is my life as a dream teacher like? It is like being on one of the world’s best vacations every day. I travel and teach from Brazil to Bucharest, from Paris to Portland, and everywhere I have the joy of seeing the light come on in people’s eyes when they discover that there are fun, high-energy ways to play with their dreams and live their best dreams.

You say that we can all become “shamans of the breakfast table”. Tell us how!

Anyone who dreams, as the Kawahiv, an Amazonian dreaming people say, is “a little bit shaman”. We stand on the brink of claiming this power when we remember our dreams and start to develop the practice of working with dreams as daily practice. I have developed a fast, fun method of everyday dream sharing. I call this Lightning Dreamwork, because it is meant to be fast as a lightning bolt, and to focus and harness energy. What Lightning Dreamwork provides is a way of dream sharing that can reach temporary closure in just five or ten minutes, exploding any alibi that we don’t have time for this. This approach also offers clear guard rails that insure that we will not intrude on each other’s privacy and will never presume to tell another person what his or her dreams mean. The process always leads to creative or healing action to bring the energy and guidance of dreams into daily life.

You say that in dreaming we are all time travellers and this can become conscious practice. How?

As dreamers, we are time travellers. With or without intention, we travel to the past and the future as well as parallel worlds. This can become conscious practice, and we can learn to fold time in the sense of being present, mind to mind, with other personalities in other times, sharing gifts and insights with each other. Our ability to travel into the future is essential to our survival and well-being. We not only bring back memories of future events for which we – and sometimes whole communities – can then prepare. We visit possible futures, and our ability to read our memories of the possible future and then take appropriate action can determine whether we can escape a future event we don’t like, or manifest one that we want.
How? We start by recording and working with spontaneous night dreams. We learn to value the scout who goes out every night, in dreaming, to identify challenges and opportunities that lie ahead, and to work with his information. Every morning, he brings us memories of the future – and also glimpses of past times and parallel times.
Dream memories of this kind are ideal portals for conscious journeys – for which we use shamanic drumming in the workshops – to explore past, future, or parallel times. We can learn to go back to a younger self – as I went back to my strange, solitary boy self – to offer support and mentoring. We can visit our soul family and learn how the dramas of other lives in other times may be influencing our present lives.

You say that treasures await us in the Place between Sleep and Awake. What kind of treasures and how do we find them?

The easiest way to become a lucid or conscious dreamer is to spend more time in the twilight zone between waking and sleep, or between sleep and waking. Tinker Bell told Peter Pan to look for her in the Place between Sleep and Awake. This liminal state is a place of encounter with inner guides and transpersonal visitors. It is also a place of heightened psychic perception and creative breakthroughs, where it is easy to make connections that escape the daily mind.


Become An Inspirational Dreamer!

Ok, maybe you haven’t written as many books about dreams as Robert Moss, but he has dream stories just as we all do. Dreaming is a experience we all share. Here are some ways you can inspire others. I’d love to hear about some ways you have inspired others so please post!

  • Share a dream– This is top on my list! The simple act of sharing a dream, connects you to others, gives you ideas and inspiration about your dream and your life and lets you know that you are perfectly normal, no matter how weird your dream images or storyline are.
  • Honour your dream– Do something in your waking world to keep the message of your dream alive and well. It is so easy to forget a dream and its details and it’s just as easy to watch your insights evaporate into thin air. When we honour a dream- Putting post-it notes with the dream’s message on your computer’s monitor, doodling the images in the dream, writing a poem (+ millions of other creative possibilities) keeps the dream’s insights within reach of your conscious mind. And when it is in your awareness, that is the point of change. Transformation becomes doable.
  • Call someone who just appeared in your dream- and say “Hey, I just dreamt about you!” Not only does it teach the listener that you value your dreams (and they can too) but it also says “I care”. Heart-Centered Dreamwork starts with a caring heart. Most likely that person appeared in your dream as a symbol or a projection of an aspect of yourself, so you don’t have to get too worked up imagining the dream is a precognitive message for them, just go with the synchronicity and have fun comparing notes. You never know but that person might have been dreaming about you too!
  • Share what you learn. By now, you’ve probably read a lot of blogs on dreams, maybe even several books. Talk about what you’ve learned with your friends, as you continue to share dreams. You might even want to lead a dream group for your friends or advertise a new dream group in the community. Before you know it friends and colleagues will be telling you their dreams and you will be known as an inspirational dreamer!

Not sure where to start? The International Association for the Study of Dreams is it! The only organization of its kind, IASD welcomes dreamers of all levels, whether novice “lay” dreamer or experienced professional in the field and everything in between. Their annual conferences are magical, educational and inspirational. Check them out at


Robert Moss can be reached through his website: where you can also access information about his courses and follow his blog.






Blogging Oblivion: I Suck At Keywords

Dreamwork Hacks July 13, 2015

learning curves

Blogging Oblivion: I suck at keywords!

I’m in Blogging Oblivion and apparently, according to the SEO (Search Engine Optimization) spam, I suck at keywords and most things technical. But to put a more positive spin on this, I’ve learned a lot but there’s definitely a learning curve for me when it comes to blogging! I just want to talk about dreams, Soul Coaching®, spirituality, life and the meditative benefits of doing dishes (or rather the benefits of my husband doing dishes), but my SEO plugins make it clear that what I want to say isn’t what people are searching for. Sigh. So it should come as no surprise to you that in an age when the local Librarian is as lonely as the Maytag Repair Man, that I named a tab on my website the “Dream Library”. Ya, I’m clearly not in the Adword groove yet.

Akashic? Isn’t That A Grain?

If you’ve just found my blog, scroll down to my post about Dream Dictionaries (June 10th, 2015 filed under Dreamwork Hacks). If you’ve already read it, you may remember that I have some strong opinions about dream dictionaries. While some offer interesting possibilities with symbolic and metaphorical associations, most are Dime Store hooey. (Btw, the “Dime Stores” are now Dollar Stores that seem to have a lot of labels with $2+ on them!) So why, then, do I have a section called the “Dream Library” and why does it resemble a dream dictionary? All good questions. I’ll try to explain.

Calling it a library, is a nod to the Akashic Records, the vast, other-dimensional storehouse that holds information about all things for all times. Theosophists and others started talking about it in the 19th century and many connect it with Atlantis and Lemuria. If you haven’t been in this library lately, get thee to the Akashic Records, available only as a download- no, not from iTunes-but during meditation and out-of-body journeys to alternate planes of existence. On Earth, in our times, perhaps the NY Public Library on 42nd Street or the Library of Congress in Washington comes close. Or, for a more current reference, it is like the Long-Term Memory in Inside Out. And, yes, I’m a bibliophile. I admit it. Don’t judge me.

Dream Dictionaries Again?

What’s up with my non-dictionary, dream dictionary then? It all started when I discovered that the most common question I get asked is “What does it mean when you dream about…?” (Never “when I dream about” but it was always a generic “you“! “Interrrresting”, says my psychotherapist-trained brain.) I get invited to speak at a lot of service organizations and women’s groups and I would prepare lots of information, historical, psychological, mystical and mythical. But no matter what I prepared I would often get interrupted with someone asking about a particular dream. And, since we’re friends, I can tell you that it used to bother me. No, I’m used to being interrupted, but these days, if I lose my train of thought, I might just miss my station. But it bothered me because it tells me that people still think they can just look up the meaning of a dream (or ask) et voila, the one-size-fits-all definition will appear and their dream will instantly become clear! They wanted me, as Dream “Expert”, to pronounce meaning on their dream and all I wanted to do, besides get through the material that I prepared, was coach them in finding the meaning for themselves.


Your Very Own Library of Possibilities

Still waiting to hear why I grew this Dream Library with symbols for dreamers to look up? Here’s the reason I did it: As Soul Coach, dream teacher and coach, and former body-mind therapist, I ultimately believe that we need to meet people where they are, start there, and from a place of respect, teach them how to work with their own dreams, without giving them all the answers. So, for those who were getting stuck on different symbols, I offer my Little Library of Possibilities. They are there to prime the pump of the dreamers’ own, personal associations, and they are not there as the final say for any of it. Only the dreamer can really say what any given symbol means for them. Radical, I know.

My goal is to expand this section over the summer so please write to me at and let me know what symbols you’re stuck on. We just won’t call it a dictionary so much as a resource library. Ok? As for keywords and the business of blogging… If everyone who finds their way here would tell three friends about this site, it will all take care of itself. I thank YOU… Though I still feel like I’m in blogging oblivion!